Finding Love in Lagos...

When I first moved back to Nigeria, people were convinced that there was a man that had wooed me, swept me off my feet,and got me to move back! Hahahahahahahahahaha.

I can tell you, that was so not the case. In fact, a man was definitely not on my mind when I was moving back. After so many years back in Nigeria, I find the dating scene soo interesting. When you're abroad, people say, it's harder to find love because Nigerians are not always readily available especially if "Nigerian" is your spec. They speculate that when you move back to Nigeria, within one year, you'd be walking down the aisle with the man of your dreams. Hahahahahahahahahahaha. LOL.

Don't believe any of it. First of all, I believe you can find love anywhere, usually when you least expect it.

So, let's talk about the dating scene. Well, without giving away too much about my personal experience (hehe) but rather writing from my observations, the dating scene is DRY! Don't get me wrong, people are finding love but the rate at which this is happening is alarming and not because they are finding it. LOL.

For some reason there are ALOT of single people - vibrant, successful, beautiful, Godly people. The ladies say the guys are slacking and the guys...what do the guys say? I can't rememeber or I don't know! Lol. It turns out that people are just not finding their spec. So what's happening is a lot of women, let me repeat ALOT of women are crossing 30 and are still single, very single. My theory is that once they cross 30, it gets even harder because the guys feel like ah, these women are independent and set in their ways and so they opt for younger girls. There are so many theories but who really knows what's going?

I think it's time people start doing unconventional things to find love! It's time to live on the edge jare. For example, a friend of mine started a Speed Dating service! Yup, in Nigeria. The reaction to it was amazing. Some people, particularly the women, said they couldn't imagine "paying" for love, others, the guys, said they didn't need help finding love! I attended and boy was it fun or what! (I attended because my friend gave me a free ticket and insisted that I come. To be honest, left to me, I probably wouldn't have gone cos I'm not that adventurous. LOL) I'm so glad I did though because it was fun. It was also very well organized. I would do it again! I think she's on to something.

Phew, lemme leave the dating scene alone for now. I'll come back with more on it shortly.

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Nigeria...

Ah, where do I start. Nigeria, my country...

So much has happened since my last post as you can imagine. This place is beyond interesting. One of my tweets today was "Living in Nigeria is for the strong-minded #nigeria #lagos" and I meant every word of it. There is no place like home they say but sometimes...nah, lemme not go there. Lol.

So, where do I start? Traffic. Traffic in Lagos "no get part two" as they say. Well, it's improved tremendously in recent times with the construction happening on various roads. I have to say the effect traffic can have on you is quite incredible. You find that you are perpetually tired. Most people find stuff to do after work to wait out traffic but that gets old after a while and sometimes you just want to go home and chill. Most times when I've done that, that is, go straight home after work, I regret it! Cos I'm more tired than I would have been had I just waited out the traffic. So, it is very important to find balance here.

People ask me how I'm enjoying Nigeria and I usually say it depends on what day you ask me. Some days I HATE it and want to run away! Other days, I'm ok with it. And other days, I'm loving it.

I am a changed woman. Nigeria WILL change you!

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This was a quick one, gotta gather my thoughts and blog some more cos there's so much to say.